A specific invite

We should grab dinner sometime

Sure!

Busy week, let's do it another time

For real though, we'll hang out soon!

Over a month, he's said "let's hang out sometime" three times, but he's never named a day. What does that most likely mean?

Pick one answer

Lesson notes

A summary of this lesson to come back to. To make it stick, work through the steps above.

By the end you'll be able to

Tell a specific invite apart from "let's hang out sometime."

Key ideas

Specific invites
Offering another time

"Sometime" isn't an invitation

"Let's hang out sometime" has no date, so nobody is on the hook. A specific invitation names a time, a place or a plan, and asks if it works for you. It means he actually intends to see you and is willing to risk hearing no.

Another time: the most honest signal

Everyone gets busy. The difference: someone who wants to see you follows "this week doesn't work" with "what about next Wednesday?" A "let's see when things calm down" followed by silence puts the plan back in a drawer.

Take these with you

✓"Sometime" isn't an invitation. A time and a place mean he actually plans to see you.
✓Being busy but offering another time is the most honest sign of interest.
✓You can suggest a specific time yourself. His response is your answer.

This week's mission

This week, when you get a vague "sometime," reply with a specific day and place and see how they respond.