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Explain how people-pleasing drains attraction, and give one example from your own life.
Running her errands, replying in seconds, saying "anything's fine". It looks considerate. But when it comes from "I'm afraid she won't like me", what she actually receives is: you don't have a position of your own.
Attraction isn't a points system. She wants to meet someone with tastes, limits, and the ability to say no. Shrink yourself down to pure agreement and the things she could like about you disappear too.
The problem isn't giving too much. It's being reduced to a function: fixing her laptop, giving rides, keeping her company, but never being the one she thinks about. A function can be replaced. A person with a self can't.
This week, when someone asks what you want to eat or do, name one specific choice and why.